A Tauranga woman is speaking up about her fertility issues, in the hopes of giving a voice to other struggling couples.

Sam Hoblyn and her partner Dylan have been struggling with fertility problems since the end of last year.

'It all started on October 25,” says Sam. 'I woke up not feeling right, I was crampy, sore and just not myself.

'I went to work, lasted an hour and noticed I had started to bleed. I tried getting into my doctor but with them being busy they sent me straight to emergency.

'From there I had bloods done and a scan which resulted in me being positive for pregnancy but the scan was not able to locate anything.

'I was sent home to rest and had an appointment for another test in few days' time. I lasted one day and was rushed back in with severe pain which was horrible.

'With rising HCG hormone levels and the scan finally able to locate the baby in my left tube I was rushed into urgent surgery as it can end up being quite serious if the tube bursts.

'I had keyhole surgery done on me and my left tube taken as the baby was six weeks along.

'The grief you go through is crazy,” she says. 'Having to lose a baby and recover from surgery all in one is a huge shock.”

Sam says after letting herself heal and grieve for a few months, they decided to try again.

'My worst nightmare happened again on February 12. I had the same pain and bleeding. We could only hope this wasn't happening again but we were wrong.

'I went back into the emergency department, had blood tests and scans done again all coming back positive.

'This time they located the baby in my right tube and discovered I was only two weeks along, so it was only super early but this time it managed to rupture my tube.

'I had emergency surgery once again where they removed the right tube as well, leaving me with no fallopian tubes.

'Our only option now will be IVF treatment. We qualify immediately for it but with the wait time for the publicly funded treatment being two years.

'We have already been through so much and the wait just kills me. Unfortunately private treatment is $14,000 and as much as I would love to be able to do this and be able to finally be happy it's just not financially realistic for us.”

She says the stress of the whole ordeal affects her in every aspect of her life.

'Financially it's really tough, with me having to have a few weeks off each time my partner has had to work harder, all while trying to grieve for the loss of his two babies as well.

'I've also had to go back to work earlier this time around as I've used all my holiday pay up.

'Emotionally I'm a mess. I'm a hairdresser and my work has been amazing but I can't let my emotions show so I'm really good at bottling it all away. I take a lot out on my partner which he doesn't deserve at all.

'I've hardly been talking to my family and friends because no one understands and I get that. I wouldn't know what to say to me either.

'I've wanted nothing more than to have a baby for a very long time and for this all to happen has broken me but I'm strong, I have to be.”

Sam says despite her circumstances she is still hopeful.

'From here we have to try patiently wait the two years for publicly funded IVF treatments. In the meantime we're praying we win the Lotto so we can go privately and start our journey in a matter of months.

'IVF is an emotional roller coaster so I've been told, so it's a scary thought, but I'm so ready for it.

'I've wanted nothing more in life than to have a baby so the two years is going to kill me but to know that at the end of it I hopefully will be holding a beautiful baby in my arms and it will all be worth it.”

She's now wanting to reach out to others in a similar situation.

'I feel fertility is such a taboo subject and not spoken about enough. I encourage people, if they are having trouble, to seek help earlier rather than later.

'Don't be ashamed of sharing your stories because there's so many people out there going through it and we all need the support from others.

'Remember you're not alone. Your partner is there with you and he's lost two babies just as you have.

'Try not to listen to people who have no idea what you're going through. They say some pretty stupid things but it's not their fault they just don't know.

'Remember it's not the end it's just the beginning of something new and we just have to work for it a little harder than normal.

'If you're not going through something like this yourself, then try to be aware of asking dreaded questions like ‘when are you planning on having a baby?' or ‘are you trying?' - that's the worst thing to have to face and answer.

'Some people don't like to be open about it all unlike us so I think people need to be aware not to ask those questions because we don't know what people are going through in life.

'I would be lying if I said I was being positive because I'm not right now but I will get there. Things take time.”

She says a Givealittle page has been set up by a close friend to help ease some pressure.

'Our friend Lauren has been kind enough to set up a crowdfunding page in the hopes of being able to raise enough for us to be able to go private and have our dream come true.

'The page will also to help us out with bills so we don't get behind in those and ease some financial stress.”

Those who would like to donate to Sam and Dylan can do so through their Givealittle page.